Dear Adel,
Assalamualaikum sayang. Today mama will be telling you about the story of your birth and the day that I first met you.
On the 31st December 2012, Mama promised to take Toknek and Tok Mami to visit Tokba who was doing his scope in Hospital Selayang. The night before, we gathered in Maktok's house in Subang and we were joking that I should be taking all my delivery bag together with me to the hospital. However, I was so sure that you will not be out till at least the 10th of january, at least I was hoping that it will be around that date so that your Ayah could be around during the delivery. He was working in Saudi Arabia at that time. I could not sleep the night before and I kept tossing and turning the whole night. It was just unconfortable since my belly was big and I just could not find the right position but I did not think anything of it.
So, on the morning of 31st December 2012, I took my own sweet time in the morning and made some sandwiches before heading to the hospital. Once we arrived at the hospital, I parked my car and headed to see the rest of the family who was waiting patiently for Tokba to wake up after his scope. Although I just had some sandwiches, I felt hungry so I asked your Uncle Fayzal to accompany me to the canteen where I decided to have Bihun Soup and a hot lemon tea. I picked a nice area to sit which was outside of the canteen where I could enjoy the sound of birds chirping and the green scenery while enjoying my meal. As I was eating I felt your kick, which I thought was pretty normal since you seem to be quite an active baby and you keep on kicking every couple of hours. However, soon after that I felt warm water trickling down my pants. I thought I had spilled some of my tea or maybe I had 'accidently' passed urine. I continued to finish my meal and once we were done, Uncle Fayzal stood up to leave and that is where I saw how much water that has actually 'trickled' down my pants. So I said, "Fayzal, I think my water bag just broke." I was in a very calm mood too but your Uncle started to panic.
We then called Maktok and told her what had happened and she panicked even more than Uncle Fayzal did! I told Uncle Fayzal to help get me a wheel chair and after a while of sitting down and waiting, Maktok arrived with Tok Mami, Tok Mamu, and Aiman. They all were with a nurse who was pushing a wheel chair. They then urgently pushed me to the labor room where I saw Uncle Fayzal who was pushing another wheel chair intended for me as well. I somehow found all of this rather hilarious. The whole panic was because I had plan to deliver you in Colombia Asia Hospital, where they had all of my medical records. So when we asked the hospital if we could go to Colombia Asia, they explained all of the risks involved and I finally decided to deliver you in Hospital Selayang. It was funny watching other expecting mothers who was quivering in pain but only had one person next to them, but I who at this point was not in pain had a whole group of people waiting for me. It was not funny watching the other mothers in pain, but it was funny that the security guard kept telling our family members to wait outside, the situation was funny and we are blessed with such a supportive family.
After a couple of hours of waiting, they finally gave me a bed. It is now 4 pm and Alhamdulillah I have no pain yet since I am not dilated nor contracting. Hospital Selayang is quite strict with visitors and visiting hours, so I sat on my comfy bed alone and watched the new year fireworks from the hospital window not knowing the pain that is about to come in the next few hours. At around 2 am, I started contracting and boy oh boy, I did not know that it will be this much pain! I definitely underestimated the pain level since I thought ladies have been doing this for centuries and some have so many, so it could not be that bad, right? Wrong! Everytime I have my contraction, I would get up and walk all around the ward, and finally the nurses scolded me to sit in my bed which of course I did not listen to them. I kept talking to you telling you that you better come out soon or else they will induce us and we have to wait even longer. I was so determined to get you out soon, so that we will not be induced and Alhamdulillah at around 8 am they brought me to the labor room. Once I was on the bed, I started to push although they said that I was not suppose to yet since i had another 2 cm to go, but I just could not help it. Once they saw your head crowning they told the other nurse to get Maktok to come and accompany me, but I could not wait for her any longer and with one long breath I pushed you out and out came your head. It was such a relief once your head came out, it was as though all the pain had disappeared in an instant. The second push was to get your body out and Alhamdulillah at 9:13 am, January 1st, 2013 you came into this world.
They then, wiped you clean and placed you on my chest while they prepared to stitch me up. Your skin was soft and red, your hair was thick and you just slept peacefully on me. I was in complete bliss. Alhamdulillah. You were such a well behaved baby. Somehow you helped me out and did not cry as much during the first few nights, probably you knew that there was nobody around to help mama at that time and since I was quite weak, it was just a blessing that you slept peacefully through the night. You will only cry when you are hungry of you need a nappy change, then you would fall right back to sleep. I was amazed the first time I breast fed you, that you just latched on and sucked away as tough you have been doing it all along. Probably that is how it is with every baby, but I felt it an amazing thing. MasyaAllah!
The next few weeks you had so many visitors from Uncles, Aunties and friends. We also held a feast (akikah) about a week after you were born and I purposely chose not to have all the frilly baskets and stage like most mothers do these days. I just wanted to keep things simple and made sure all the necessary things are done correctedly. So we had a Marhaban group who sang selawat and salam for the Rasul and some advice. Here are some of the pictures that was taken during your kenduri akikah.
Assalamualaikum sayang. Today mama will be telling you about the story of your birth and the day that I first met you.
On the 31st December 2012, Mama promised to take Toknek and Tok Mami to visit Tokba who was doing his scope in Hospital Selayang. The night before, we gathered in Maktok's house in Subang and we were joking that I should be taking all my delivery bag together with me to the hospital. However, I was so sure that you will not be out till at least the 10th of january, at least I was hoping that it will be around that date so that your Ayah could be around during the delivery. He was working in Saudi Arabia at that time. I could not sleep the night before and I kept tossing and turning the whole night. It was just unconfortable since my belly was big and I just could not find the right position but I did not think anything of it.
So, on the morning of 31st December 2012, I took my own sweet time in the morning and made some sandwiches before heading to the hospital. Once we arrived at the hospital, I parked my car and headed to see the rest of the family who was waiting patiently for Tokba to wake up after his scope. Although I just had some sandwiches, I felt hungry so I asked your Uncle Fayzal to accompany me to the canteen where I decided to have Bihun Soup and a hot lemon tea. I picked a nice area to sit which was outside of the canteen where I could enjoy the sound of birds chirping and the green scenery while enjoying my meal. As I was eating I felt your kick, which I thought was pretty normal since you seem to be quite an active baby and you keep on kicking every couple of hours. However, soon after that I felt warm water trickling down my pants. I thought I had spilled some of my tea or maybe I had 'accidently' passed urine. I continued to finish my meal and once we were done, Uncle Fayzal stood up to leave and that is where I saw how much water that has actually 'trickled' down my pants. So I said, "Fayzal, I think my water bag just broke." I was in a very calm mood too but your Uncle started to panic.
We then called Maktok and told her what had happened and she panicked even more than Uncle Fayzal did! I told Uncle Fayzal to help get me a wheel chair and after a while of sitting down and waiting, Maktok arrived with Tok Mami, Tok Mamu, and Aiman. They all were with a nurse who was pushing a wheel chair. They then urgently pushed me to the labor room where I saw Uncle Fayzal who was pushing another wheel chair intended for me as well. I somehow found all of this rather hilarious. The whole panic was because I had plan to deliver you in Colombia Asia Hospital, where they had all of my medical records. So when we asked the hospital if we could go to Colombia Asia, they explained all of the risks involved and I finally decided to deliver you in Hospital Selayang. It was funny watching other expecting mothers who was quivering in pain but only had one person next to them, but I who at this point was not in pain had a whole group of people waiting for me. It was not funny watching the other mothers in pain, but it was funny that the security guard kept telling our family members to wait outside, the situation was funny and we are blessed with such a supportive family.
After a couple of hours of waiting, they finally gave me a bed. It is now 4 pm and Alhamdulillah I have no pain yet since I am not dilated nor contracting. Hospital Selayang is quite strict with visitors and visiting hours, so I sat on my comfy bed alone and watched the new year fireworks from the hospital window not knowing the pain that is about to come in the next few hours. At around 2 am, I started contracting and boy oh boy, I did not know that it will be this much pain! I definitely underestimated the pain level since I thought ladies have been doing this for centuries and some have so many, so it could not be that bad, right? Wrong! Everytime I have my contraction, I would get up and walk all around the ward, and finally the nurses scolded me to sit in my bed which of course I did not listen to them. I kept talking to you telling you that you better come out soon or else they will induce us and we have to wait even longer. I was so determined to get you out soon, so that we will not be induced and Alhamdulillah at around 8 am they brought me to the labor room. Once I was on the bed, I started to push although they said that I was not suppose to yet since i had another 2 cm to go, but I just could not help it. Once they saw your head crowning they told the other nurse to get Maktok to come and accompany me, but I could not wait for her any longer and with one long breath I pushed you out and out came your head. It was such a relief once your head came out, it was as though all the pain had disappeared in an instant. The second push was to get your body out and Alhamdulillah at 9:13 am, January 1st, 2013 you came into this world.
They then, wiped you clean and placed you on my chest while they prepared to stitch me up. Your skin was soft and red, your hair was thick and you just slept peacefully on me. I was in complete bliss. Alhamdulillah. You were such a well behaved baby. Somehow you helped me out and did not cry as much during the first few nights, probably you knew that there was nobody around to help mama at that time and since I was quite weak, it was just a blessing that you slept peacefully through the night. You will only cry when you are hungry of you need a nappy change, then you would fall right back to sleep. I was amazed the first time I breast fed you, that you just latched on and sucked away as tough you have been doing it all along. Probably that is how it is with every baby, but I felt it an amazing thing. MasyaAllah!
The next few weeks you had so many visitors from Uncles, Aunties and friends. We also held a feast (akikah) about a week after you were born and I purposely chose not to have all the frilly baskets and stage like most mothers do these days. I just wanted to keep things simple and made sure all the necessary things are done correctedly. So we had a Marhaban group who sang selawat and salam for the Rasul and some advice. Here are some of the pictures that was taken during your kenduri akikah.
Ok, thats it for today. Will write again soon!
Lots of love,
Mama
